7 Stages Of Grieving The End Of A Relationship. Don't deny the pain. By Dr. Martha Tara Lee, Contributor. 08/29/ am ET | Updated April 26, Much like the passing away of a loved one, breakups have stages of grief. It's hard not to feel the sting after a relationship ends, and it's even harder lasts longer if you are on the receiving end of an unexpected breakup. According to Dr. Jennifer Kromberg's article "The 5 Stages of Grieving the End of a Relationship," you may try anything you can to reclaim.
It could be any other shape — a circle, a spiral, a wave, a triangle even, but it is definitely not a straight line.
There are so many ways we are subconsciously reminded of our loss. Allow feelings to come and go Grief is a natural part of how we process any painful and saddening events.
Not feeling okay is perfectly okay, even if society tells you otherwise. The more we attempt to hide or suppress our feelings, the stronger and more stuck they become. Try to support yourself by journaling, crying, screaming into a pillow, punching a mattress, sitting with your feelings in silence, or reaching out to a trusted friend for support.
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Find your tribe In my experience with grief and loss, I have come across three types of people: This can come in the form of a support group, a therapist, or friends who have experienced a similar loss. Consider serving others One common and natural response to grief is the inclination to isolate yourself from others. Helping others evokes gratitude and supports health and happiness. Search for meaning Painful experiences often end up being a fundamental part of our personal growth.
Especially the hard stuff. The key is that we have to be open to the pain and difficulty, to be truly open to what it is we are supposed to gain from an experience.
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How can it strengthen me? How can I take this experience and use it to support myself in the future? How can I use my experience to help others?
Instead, it means that your mind, body, and emotions are finally able to accept the events that have occurred, and you see it as something you can integrate into your everyday life, thoughts, and feelings. Every time you practice acceptance toward something, you create and strengthen neural pathways in your brain, facilitating ease in the future. Let go of the idea of closure The idea of closure in our culture is one of tidy endings, a sense of completion.
The reason we long for closure, of course, is because we would like to be rid of our pain. If you give yourself time, you can eventually find yourself at the end of the grief stages, acceptance. Denial gives your heart time to adjust to the new situation. In the denial phase you may think that your significant other is coming back to you. Everybody spends different amounts of time in the denial phase, so turn to your friends and family for support.
Important people can keep you from making common denial stage mistakes, such as late-night conversations with your ex. Anger It is normal to be angry at your former partner. You may resent her for causing you pain or for breaking up your family.
It is important in this phase not to make any rash decisions that you may later regret. In her for Psychology Today, Dr. Jennifer Kromberg states that you can go as far as sending hateful emails if you let this stage get the best of you.
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Allow yourself to work through your anger, perhaps by exercising, drawing or writing in a journal. Bargaining In the bargaining phase you will try to restore your relationship or perhaps rebuild it as a friendship.
Jennifer Kromberg's article "The 5 Stages of Grieving the End of a Relationship," you may try anything you can to reclaim your relationship.